I have never had many behavioural problems with Isabelle, but as she is getting older, of course she is changing as well. I was used to her being a very good girl, always did as told... Not any more. I cannot say it happens every day, but it does happen more and more often.
This morning when I was picking her up from pre-school, she dropped one of her mittens and I told her to go back to get it. She was very excited about seeing me and she just turned around and rushed to get it, by pushing past one of her classmates. I told her to say excuse me and not just to push past anyone, and that was the start of the new Isabelle "sulky Isabelle". She picked up her mitten and was looking very grumpy. She didn't want to kiss me, hold my hand.....so I was asking her what the matter was and she just wouldn't answer. We left the school and on the way to my car, the same girl (which by the way I really like and talk to her mum a lot) ran to us and wanted to hold Isabelle's hand...which my darling daughter didn't want to so she just put her hand in a pocket. I was embarrassed and said sorry to the little girl and her mum. The whole journey in the car Isabelle didn't speak a word and was not responding to my questions. As I am not used to this, I really had to control myself not to start shouting and telling her off. When we got home, daddy was greeting her and wanted a kiss, but she was just horrible to him. I explained what happened and then we were trying to get her to say what she did was wrong...but she just wouldn't do it. We left her sitting on the stairs. My husband mentioned she could stay sitting on the naughty step as long as she wanted to... Just to point out, I don't use the naughty step technique, but they used it at her previous nursery. She got very upset and ran upstairs crying.
Anyway, after about half an hour of both of us not talking to her, she came to us and said "sorry". We were talking to her for a while and explaining to her what she did wasn't nice and if somebody did the same to her that she wouldn't like that too. Every time I ask her why she doesn't play with the girl at school, she says that her two best friends don't like her, so they don't want to play with her and that's why she doesn't play with that girl as well. I told her she should be friends with everybody, not just the two girls, but I am not sure she will. We agreed with my husband that maybe I should invite the girl and her mum one afternoon so the girls could play together.
This was the first time I saw Isabelle not being nice to someone and I don't like it at all. How do you deal with sulky children and what would you do in this case?
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